This week the idea of men and women has been on my mind.
There are some disturbing realizations that I just don’t seem to understand. Maybe it’s cultural, maybe it’s competition, maybe it’s…unevolved. Help me Obi-Wan…I don’t get it!
Why do women huddle together like hens in the corner and men on the other side forming their bro-communities? Where did the balance go? Are we really all that different? OK yes we are…but that being said…is that a bad thing…no, it isn’t.
There is an idea floating out in the universe that men and women who operate in separate pools of life become stronger as humans beings. We ask for the other sex to be more like us, but doesn’t this seem a bit whacky? (again…Obi-Wan…911!)
Are we that insecure in our feminism and masculinity that we ask men to be more like women and women to be more like men…and if they don’t…then screw ’em! Our solution is: we will band together in our same-sex groups and complain!
Asking someone to change is a slippery slope to resentment. When people are forced to change it’s an attack on who there are…and besides…isn’t it refreshing to see the differences rather than cloning a new hybrid of man or woman?
Leave the clones to Boba Fett and…ummmm…May the force be with you!
I recently went to a restaurant to have a quiet lunch by myself and I sat down beside two women. Ohhh my! What a shock to hear how the men in their lives were impacting them in such negative ways. I was tempted to pop my head into their conversation and ask, “Are men really all that terrible?” but alas I didn’t and I think I immediately suffered from indigestion by stifling my comments. This is just one scenario though. Men…I hear it from you too…the nagging, the honey-do list, the making me watch a chic-flick dread! Are women really all that bad?
Maybe it’s just our perspectives that need a tune-up. No one is an object, no one should be cloned, and male/female differences set balance and order into the universe like they do with art.
Let the dance start between the sexes so that balance can be restored! Ohhh and how much more fun that would be!
Don’t you think? ~mb
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